I know that a lot of men don’t read mommy blogs. They read tech blogs, or sports blogs, or how to be manly men blogs. However, this is a serious “get it off my chest” moment for the men out there. From Jon Gosselin, to David Letterman, and now one of my favorite ESPN guys- Steve Phillips, I am truly down in the dumps about men. Not my man- he is amazing. Just men in general.

How do these guys, these very famous guys, think that they are going to get away with cheating on their wives? How do they think that this could possibly be a good idea as their young children, many of them sons, stay home with Mommy and watch her find out that their hero is THIS FALLIBLE?

As I watch TV with my little son this morning, I am devastated by the lack of morality and basic decency in the lives of those we call our “reality.” There is such a dichotomy between what we vocalize to our children and what is shown in the media. Where are the men that will stand up and say that they will not cheat on their wives, will not drag them into a scandal, and will actively work to revoke the man card of any that does?

I certainly don’t mean to get all Nancy Grace here, but I am just severely disappointed. I look at my Kase, and think that he will have a wife someday. How do I teach him that honoring her does not mean doing what feels good? Or that “falling out of love” with her is not a good enough reason to find pleasure elsewhere? As my husband and I watched “Jon & Kate Plus 8″ at the very beginning to see their adorable children and just HOW THEY DO IT! with 8 children, Kaleb told me that his gut said that something was wrong with their marriage. He, apparently, called it, because now we see what they had worked so hard for fall completely apart. Their own selfishness cost them the ultimate gift to their children- an example of what marriage should be.

Personally, I have a lot of pent up anger about and history with cheating and divorce, and the cases that continue to present themselves make me even more disappointed and distrustful toward the men in our society. I do know that this is not only a man’s problem- and women, myself included, must contend with the temptation that immediate gratification in the arms of another offers. I have been tempted, I have nearly given in, and I have resisted thanks to God and thanks to the long-term gratification that I find in the arms of my one true love.

I do write this selfishly. I am disgusted, but I am at heart a cheerleader. Let’s honor one another! Let’s commit and mean it! Let’s raise our children to understand the meaning of a promise, and equip them with the ability to keep those promises. Finally, let’s be the example. And let’s not simply accept those that choose the easy way our of their own misery. That is a boat with a wake too big for some to survive.